Planning for The Unplanned: Myths and Mysteries of Closely Spaced Siblings
Copyright © 2006 Anne Arthur
Closely Spaced Kids
http://www.closelyspacedkids.com

Parents of closely spaced children often find themselves dealing
with the unplanned. No time is this more apparent when parents
discover they are unexpectedly pregnant with one or more young
babies already in the home.

Many parents of closely spaced children conceive unexpectedly.
Here are some of the common myths and mysteries related to
closely spaced children that help explain why having children
close in age sometimes requires planning for the unplanned.

Myth #1 - You Can't Get Pregnant While Breastfeeding

This is False! Anyone can get pregnant while breastfeeding.
For those that breastfeed around the clock, their chances of
conceiving are generally less than a parent who is bottle-feeding
or combining breastfeeding with bottle-feeding.

That said, the less time your baby spends at the breast, the more
likely you are to conceive. If you plan to use breastfeeding
as a form of contraception, be advised that there are strict
guidelines for doing so. Even under the best of circumstances
breastfeeding is not foolproof, and much less effective after
babies start eating solids (which can be anywhere from 4-6 months
for most babies.).

Many parents of closely spaced children find themselves
unexpectedly dealing with unplanned pregnancies because they
conceived while breastfeeding. If you truly don't want to
conceive, you might consider an added form of contraception.
If you did get pregnant this way, congratulations! You are
one of many!

Myth #2 - The Mini Pill Always Prevents Pregnancy

This is also false. The mini pill is a lower dose hormone pill
often prescribed breastfeeding mothers to reduce their fertility.
Because it doesn't interfere with milk production it is
considered safe to use while breastfeeding. While usually very
effective, there are many factors that can influence its
efficacy.

If for example, you fail to take this pill at the exact same time
every day, or suffer a bout of stomach flu, or take a course of
antibiotics even, you may find yourself unexpectedly pregnant!

The mini pill is much less reliable if you use it as a sole form
of contraception. Your best bet is back up protection if you
plan on truly preventing a pregnancy.

Myth #3 An IUD Will Always Prevent Pregnancy

This again is false. In most cases an IUD is an exceptional form
of contraception. It may last up to five years. There are still
however tales of women whose contraception failed and they became
pregnant while using an IUD. This may result from multiple
factors including improper placement. Some women's bodies simply
reject the IUD. Whatever the case there are women who have
become pregnant using an IUD. While rare, anything is possible.

Tips For Surviving Closely Spaced Pregnancies

The reality is that no form of contraception is foolproof.
Most women however will experience good results when using
contraception correctly. That said many have also gotten
pregnant even with 'perfect' use.

So what do you do if you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant and
expecting two children under two or three under three? Don't
panic! Most mother's natural instinct when they learn they will
have closely spaced children is to panic. Fortunately there are
thousands of other mothers who have gone through the same thing.

You should know as a parent of closely spaced kids or soon to be
parent, that the baby years are often the toughest. During the
first 3 years of life most children need a lot of one on one
attention and babying. That said, this period of time while
challenging is also one of the most rewarding.

Parenting closely spaced children is a time in life when you
should forget about planning everything. Toss your schedule out
the window because nine times out of ten you'll find your
schedule interrupted by one unexpected event or another. The
best way to cope? Simply laugh as much as you can. The good
news is most parents with closely spaced children find they
eventually adapt and adopt a routine, and that their children
are better friends and siblings because of their close ages.

If you find yourself unexpectedly expecting again, look to
friends and family members for support. Chances are you'll find
a strong shoulder to lean on, cry on and laugh on when the time
comes. Parenting closely spaced children is rewarding. Whether
your pregnancy is planned or unexpected, revel in the mystery
and miracle that created life.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Anne Arthur is a freelance writer living in Denver, CO.
Her new guide, "Double Duty: The One and Only Guide For
Parents of Closely Spaced Children" is currently
available at Booklocker.com by linking to
http://www.booklocker.com/books/2323.html
Check out her site for more information and support for raising
closely spaced children at http://www.closelyspacedkids.com

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